Defining your friendships so you know where you stand

Friendship is one of the most overlooked aspects of human flourishing. In modern culture, friendship is often treated as optional or secondary something less significant than marriage or family…

Courage to be fully known

When we talk about the tiers of friendship and the number of hours it supposedly takes to become a casual friend, a companion friend, a close friend, or a covenant friend, we have to ask ourselves one question: Is that enough?…

There’s something I keep noticing in volunteer spaces. Leaders say they want people to take ownership, but what they actually create is a system where people have to guess. The language sounds right. “Take initiative.” “Jump in wherever.” It sounds empowering. But most of the time, it’s not. It’s avoidance.

You didn't change. You got trained.

I was talking to someone recently who told me he hasn’t been honest with his wife in over fifteen years. Not because he doesn’t have thoughts or feelings, but because every time he tried early on, it would turn into a fight. Not just a normal disagreement, but the kind that escalates and makes you regret even bringing something up. Over time, he learned it just wasn’t worth it.